Before we dive into this topic, I’d like to make two things clear: I have worked for Bumble and I’ve never used a dating app for specific, dating-app purposes. There. I said it. I’m glad we got that part out of the way.
Now before you box me into a category, I’d like to mention that I’m trying to be relatable here. In fact, I come to you from a place of pure curiosity. Just because I haven’t played the field in a while doesn’t mean that I haven’t had many a girlfriend — or guy-friend, for that matter — spew their gory, dating war-story guts all over the foot of my bed. Dating in the millennium truly baffles me. And, the last time I checked, I’m what they refer to as a millennial.
It’s this all’s-definitely-not-fair-in-love-and-war (and Hannah’s windmill conversation with Luke) that got me thinking about modern dating in the first place. How do you find romance in 2019? Is traditional courting a thing of the past? And, how in the world are humans supposed to find other individuals to connect with when they can so easily fill their phones, feeds, and time with Instagram models, Diet Prada’s latest prey, and other people’s glamorous, hilarious, and sometimes (read: often) mortifying lives. From conversations with friends and acquaintances alike, a vast majority of responses lead to the answer I suspected all along: dating apps. But, the landscape seems more complex than that.
Within the dating app community, it appears there lies an unspoken hierarchy of needs, which was once explained to me as today’s slutty equivalent to Maslow. Depending on your desired outcome, you may download different apps. Some have a reputation of being ultra sex-forward, others more promising of lasting love. All have the potential to be a wasteland of hookups and missed opportunity, but they can also result in major success, too, whether that success is measured in a steamy one-night conquest or a two-hour conversation about the future with a potential lifelong partner. Like everything, dating apps seem to be what you make them, but then again, I could be totally missing the mark. What provokes me to this day, however, are the unwritten rules you must follow in order to play the game. Who wrote these rules, anyhow? And, what if you were born to be a rule-breaker?
Because my curiosity can be contained no more, I thought I’d take to asking all of you, dear Bleu readers. Do you use dating apps? If so, have you found success? Do you have a horror story you’ve previously locked in a vault, but can contain no longer? Perhaps, like me, you never had the opportunity experience the thrill of Bumble or Tinder or Hinge. Let us know in the comments, below, and remember: this is a zero-judgement zone.