How Often Do You Cry?

Some of us wear our hearts and our emotions on our sleeves, while others find it more difficult to share a more vulnerable side, keeping our truest feelings to ourselves. According to an early Y2K study, the average American woman cries 3.5 times per month. Of course, this varies given what’s going on in our universe at any given moment, but we’re curious — how often do you cry?

We all cry, and in different ways and for different reasons. Do you feel comfortable letting the tears flow in front of others or are you a closet crier? Do you cry listening to music, during movies and Publix commercials? Do you sometimes cry for no reason, or find that having a “good sob” will do great things for your well-being and state of mind? Does showing your emotions make you feel weak, or do you find comfort in letting it out in front of family and friends? Join the conversation below.

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  1. Calli Alford

    May 20, 2019 at 12:21 pm

    When tears start to form I can’t stop them from spilling over which bars me from being a closet crier, even if I wanted to be. It’s not that I’m “not afraid” to wear my heart and emotions on my sleeve, it’s that I literally can’t hide them. A “good sob” is one of the most therapeutic and cathartic things I do for myself so when the need arises I let it happen. Preferably in a hot, steamy shower. It’s so important to let yourself feel the raw intensity of your emotions.

  2. Nicole

    May 20, 2019 at 12:27 pm

    I probably cry 2-3 times a month—usually in the privacy of home/car or with close friends. The exception was a job which I no longer have, where I cried 2-3 times a week at work, home, anywhere and everywhere. Needless to say—it wasn’t a healthy situation which has since been remedied. 🙂

  3. Zaidee

    May 20, 2019 at 12:55 pm

    I’ve found it harder to cry. Recently, I’ve undergone some serious traumatic shifts in my personal life. I think I’ve been in shock and it’s harder to access the real “meat” of what I’m feeling/experiencing. Sooner or later I think I’m due for a good cry/screaming sesh over a drive down some winding back roads. Showing my emotions is certainly personal for me. If I do share my emotions publicly I usually present them in a very objective manner. I don’t trust people enough to place faith in their ability to honor my vulnerability.

  4. Sara

    May 20, 2019 at 1:37 pm

    I find myself crying waay more than any of the previous comments or article stated. However, as mentioned before, there ARE a lot of things going on in my universe lately. Should I compare myself to others who cry less? Should they envy me for feeling the same things but lore intensely?

  5. Brooke

    May 20, 2019 at 7:33 pm

    I cry. A lot. I cried every single day for 2 years. Grieving. 2 years! In fact, I’m an expert at crying. Even knowing how to get though a work day and not ruin my eye makeup. I carry qtips instead of Kleenex. Stop the tears right in the duct with the tip of a qtip.
    When I think I cannot cry anymore. More come. I think I release a lot of emotion through my tears.

  6. Nadia

    May 20, 2019 at 11:50 pm

    How are we defining crying? A single tear will sometimes escape if I have a perfect bite of food, or hear a certain succession of notes, or speak or sing from a very deep place. In this way- I cry at least once a week. Im very easily moved. As far as lots of tears/ frowny mouth/ making weird sounds I cant help crying (due to my inner state- not in response to a movie or book) maybe once every few months?

  7. Mia

    May 21, 2019 at 1:29 am

    I cry when I watch shows ((Grey’s)) I cry during ovulation once-twice a day lol

  8. Sarah

    May 22, 2019 at 10:19 am

    I cry probably at least 5 times a week. I cry easily and I’ve mostly stopped trying to hold it in–people can just deal with their discomfort with my visible emotions!

  9. Nena

    May 25, 2019 at 7:06 am

    I’ve never been comfortable crying in front of people. I remember when I was younger and my brother would always look at me during a sad part of a movie to see if I was crying. Maybe that made me self-conscious? But now I’m a firm believer in letting myself cry. Sometimes an orgasm triggers a crying spell. That seems messed up to me and my husband thinks it’s funny but I just attribute it to emotional leakage. If you keep ignoring and stuffing down your emotions, THEY WILL COME FOR YOU. Like the time I burst into tears in the middle of a 5k marathon when a young boy ran past me with artificial legs. So yeah I think I probably cry once a week on a normal week? But I am a person who feels things deeply. I do believe in a good cleansing sob but I still hate to cry in front of people.


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